It is important to understand that we come across two kinds of languages, the primary and secondary. Each person may have his/her own primary and secondary languages. The definition of primary language is that the language that people use to learn while growing up from their childhood, and learning that language from their siblings as well as parents, such language will be considered the primary language. But this is not the only language that people use to face, rather when everyone grow up, they have to come across with many other languages. These additional languages that people listen and learn to speak are called secondary languages. When it comes to use these languages in a relationship, each can have a different effect. For instance, the people will feel more at home, while conveying their love to a relationship in their primary language. But when love is being conveyed through secondary language, it may not have the same inner feeling as love cannot be expressed and showed with its full feeling in a secondary language (Chapman, 2009)

Q. 2: What role does love play in your life and how do you express your love to others? What fuels our emotional needs for love and why it is an ongoing need?

            I believe that love is one of the most precious feelings that one may have in his/her feelings. Love is something, which drives you forward with lots of motivation and positive energy. The love is also very important role to play in life because it can not only give pleasure and joy, but it also gives the energy and motivation to strive for a life with someone. It means that if you have the power of love behind you, it can be easy for you to go for your goals in life. That’s why, when it comes to showing love and emotions to my loved ones, I never hesitate and shows them my love so that they can know that how special they are in my life. A person may have ongoing emotional needs for love so that he/she can be emotionally satisfied while in a relationship with someone. And in relationship with someone, the need for having love and getting it all the time with great passion is an ongoing need, which has to be fulfilled (Chopra, 2019)

Q. 3: What is the nature of real love? Contrast what it means to “fall in love” with experiencing “real love”. What characteristics of real love separate it from a euphoric love experience?

            It is important to understand that nature of love is quite difficult thing to adopt for whole life, as real nature of love demands a lot out of you. It is easy for someone to fall in love with the other person, and then his/her euphoric love will drive his/her love emotions for some time, but that feeling of love after falling in love will not last forever, there would be a point, when things will start changing in a relationship, and one may not have the same feeling for the other person, as he/she had on the first day of falling in love. According to Chapman in his book, he stated that “We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature, we are egocentric. Our world revolves around us. None of us is totally altruistic. The euphoria of the in-love experience only give us that illusion.” It means that love is not the thing to remain there for whole life with same feeling, but feelings will change as human beings are egocentric, and they must keep this reality in their mind. However, the beauty of real love is that it may not increase, but it may not decrease as well. It remains at a constant level, where feeling and passion for love remains the same, and when two people enjoy real love in their relationship, they always try to give more to each other, so that they can receive the same level of love and emotions from each other on long term basis (Chapman, 2009, pp. 31-33)

Q. 4: What makes verbal compliments work as motivators? Describe three types of words of affirmation and provide examples for each.

            It is important to know that why a person feels motivated when he/she receives some kind of verbal compliment or appreciation. In workplace situation, when an employee is down in its motivation to work, then verbal compliments can be a great motivator for him/her, as it can boost his/her positive energy to do well. The motivation comes from praise and compliments because the fact is that everyone feels good, when they receive any kind of good complements. The self esteem feelings are vastly increased by the joy and pleasure of receiving great compliments about one’s personality (Training Journal, 2014). The other idea in showing love or expressing it for your loved ones is “words of affirmation”. These are words, which are filled with spoken appreciation, praise of affection. These kinds of words work well with the people, who give intense importance to words in a relationship. There might be people who may give importance to actions rather giving importance to words. But, when a person is more interested in getting love and affection through words, then words of affirmations are great. One word of affirmation can be “Love”, for instance, someone may say to his spouse, I love you for everything you do for me every day. The second word of affirmation is “thank you”, like a spouse may say to her husband that thank you so much for being there always for me in every good or bad situation, and third word of affirmation can be “happy”, and a husband may say to her wife that it makes may happy to spend my days and nights with you (aimhappy.com, 2017)

Q. 5: Describe the concept of quality time. What are some ways you can invest quality time with spouses, partners, family members, and friends?

            It is important to understand that there are different love languages, and one of them is quality time. The quality time actually means that giving your time to your loved ones with focused attention, the attention which is undivided. It means that when you are spending time with them, then your mind and body is not busy with any other thing (Chapman, 2009, pp. 55-60). For instance, if your spouse is looking to spend quality time by sitting alongside you, and your focus is on TV, but you are thinking that you are spending quality time, then you are totally mistaken, because if your focus is TV, not your spouse, then your attention is divided. So, if one has to spend quality time with spouses, friends, family members etc, then they have to give full focus and attention to those love relationships.

References

aimhappy.com. (2017). Thoughtful Words of Affirmation to Speak to Your Loved Ones. Retrieved February 20, 2019, from https://aimhappy.com/words-of-affirmation-loved-ones/

Chapman, G. (2009). The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (reprint Edition ed.). Moody Publishers.

Chopra, D. (2019). How to Identify and Express Your Needs in Relationships. Retrieved February 20, 2019, from https://chopra.com/article/how-identify-and-express-your-needs-relationships

Training Journal. (2014). The power of praise and recognition. Retrieved February 20, 2019, from https://www.trainingjournal.com/articles/feature/power-praise-and-recognition