Become genuinely interested in other people

Living alone in the world is a scary thing, but having a bundle of friends around you can change your mood as well as your life. But making friends in this busy life is not a much easy thing these days and above all how to satisfy them. What things are supposed to be done to make them happy? If we want to make friends then there are a bundle of things which are needed to be done and those are:

·         If we want to make a friend then make sure to put ourselves out to do a different kinds of things for your friends and people living around you. Things that require your time, attention, efforts and care.

·         Friendship should be without any kind of selfishness and thoughtfulness.

·         Appreciation and greetings are very important in friendship to encourage one another and it also shows affection.

·         Showing genuine interest in others is very necessary as it does not only helps in winning the heart of friends for you but also develops loyalty in the heart of the next person.

·         Leave first impression good on the people living around you

The first impression is something very important as it leaves something on the other person about you. Whether you are a very nice person or how much caring but if you have done something horrible or miserable unconditionally then it leaves a very bad impression on the other person and then people start avoiding you. Therefore it is very necessary that whoever you meet, make sure to deal with them nicely and in a very good way.

Different small things should be kept in mind while meeting someone for the first time:

·         Say hello and greet them properly

·         Make sure to ask their name and help them if they find any difficulty

·         Tome should be soft instead of being harsh

·         Don’t try to be overconfident or too shy

Actions are something that seems to follow the feelings, but in real actions and feelings both go hand in hand. Through regulating the actions, which are mostly under the control of a will then we can also indirectly regulate the feelings as well which is not that much easy.

Everyone in this world deserves to live happily and seek happiness for them as well, for doing it there is only one sure way to do it and that is through the controlling of your thoughts. Happiness is considered to be dependent on the outside environment or conditions but in reality, it depends on the inner conditions.

Shakespeare said that there is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so.

It is said that smile heals every problem. Being a good friend or to make a good company of friends around you, what you need to do is smile. Help others to smile as well no matter what condition they are.

Your smile is a source of the messenger of your goodwill. Smile not just only makes a person beautiful and lively but it also brightens the lives of different people living around you. Your smile can be a source of sun breaking through the colds and especially when someone is having a tough time. By seeing a smile on your face they can become hopeful and can start living happily again. 

Always remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important as well in any language

Friends start calling others by their nicknames once they get close enough or just try to be extra efficient you can say but everyone loves their name. It should be clear enough that if someone in your friend's company doesn’t like to be called from their nicknames then this is their choice and that choice should be respected as well.

With the advancement in technology, people have become much busy in their lives and they don’t find enough time to talk with others who make them feel comfortable and relaxed. If any person is worried or having any tension which keeps on giving them depression they need to talk about it with someone who listens carefully. Unfortunately, there is no time left for others and people don’t consider the problems of their friends as their own until or unless they become a part of that on their own.

As a good friend, it is an obligation or duty of friends to know that what thing is bothering their friends and they should talk to him so that they can come up with a solution and makes their friend relaxed. Encourage the next person to talk if you see them worried or upset. Make yourself a good listener by helping out your friends in bad situations.

Try to talk in terms of other people’s interests

How can one find out which friend is like us and they have almost similar likes and dislikes How can they trust the next person and how bonding can become strong enough? Living around such people makes you closer to them and once while talking to them you start feeling relaxed and light. True friends are those who help their friends at the time of need. If any friend is not comfortable enough in talking then try to talk in terms of their interests through which they start feeling relaxed and comfortable as well.

The company of friends makes you happy and comfortable no matter how worried you are and you know that you can lean upon them at any moment. 

Make another person feel important and be sincere to them

Sincerity is a characteristic which is required by every person in every relationship no matter whether it is a relationship among friends or love scene. Everyone wants sincere people around them who can tell them what is right and what is wrong without hiding or exaggerating something. With time, it is seen clearly that there are very few people who are sincere to their friends without any benefit. So always try to be sincere with your friends as well as other relations only then you can be surrounded by sincere and caring people.

Along with this, always try to make other people feel important and tell them how much they are important for you in life. Try to avoid things for your loved ones which hurts them or causes them any grief. Every person is important in every relationship and they should be treated accordingly.

The first principle is the use of a smile around the people who lives near me. Everyone deserves to be happy and they should also smile no matter what condition they are.

Many poor people can’t afford toys or something good to eat. To bring a smile on the faces of those little children is more than anything in this world and it also gives you peace. I have tried this several times, it costs me nothing when I see joy and satisfaction on the faces of small children. So always try to help out others and things are not important to make others smile, your kind words and small deeds of care can also bring a smile to the people living around you.

If you want others to be your friends then become genuinely interested in them not just for a time pass as long as they are with you. Friends once made should stay with you for a lifetime. Listen to them when they need you, be a good listener without being fed up or giving them wrong advice. Always be helpful and caring by making them feel loved and cared through your words and small actions. In my experience, I applied this principle once when I was not even well aware of this principle. I had a friend and she was upset about something but she felt uncomfortable while sharing her problem with me, but once I gave her enough confidence and helped her out by giving a good piece of advice she started trusting me even more. So, these are the small tactics that make you even better, friends.

Sincerity is the best thing that every relationship demands. What happens these days that people make friends but start backbiting about them at their back to some different people in becoming more famous? If someone is sharing problems with you doesn’t mean to tell them and start laughing at them while sitting with others. Be sincere to those who trusted you and shared their problems as a good friend. Never disclose the bad side of your friends to those who are not even important to you, this can give you satisfaction for a certain time but you can lose a true friend for a lifetime.

References of How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

·         Carnegie, Dale. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. GENERAL PRESS, 2018.