Chapter 3 – Willpower to Overcome the Roadblocks

There exist options for every situation either it is good or bad. The only thing that desire is to evaluate the option which exactly matches our situation. There are no hard and fast rules to use the available options the way they are. Rather they can be molded according to the circumstances. We have the choice to change things and do something about whatever isn't working. Now it is time to overcome the roadblocks and bring positivity to our life.

You might have no idea that history has presented us that the most notable champions usually encountered heart-breaking roadblocks before they finally got the victory. In fact, they could win because they have rejected to become discouraged by their downfalls. Now here is a story that might able to inspire you.

In ancient times, there was a King who had a rock placed on a roadway and then hid himself to see if there would be someone aim to remove that big rock. Many of the wealthiest traders and toadies passed by and they were just simply walking around the rock. Many people also have blamed on the King for not maintaining the cleanliness of that road, yet, there was no one ever did anything to remove the big rock out of that roadway. Later on, there was a farmer passing the road by carrying a weight of vegetables. When he approached the rock, he then laid down all of his vegetables and started to try on moving the big rock to the roadside. Then, when he finally succeeded to move that rock, he noticed that there was a reward lying on the road right on the place where the rock had been. The reward contained lots of gold coins and also a letter from the King which said that the gold was meant for the person who removed the big rock from blocking the roadway.

Hence, that farmer had learned what most of us are still struggling to grip: There is an opportunity concealed within each roadblock, yet, most of us are still unwilling to discover it. At the same time as the story portrays us with an emotional view of overcoming the roadblocks, it highlights the importance of pushing out your weaknesses.

Obstacles or roadblocks will always appear in our daily life, whether they act as a barrier that is able to set you back, pause your progress, or might disrupt your best plans. These roadblocks could be quite discouraging and might cause loss of your resources and precious time. However, beyond all of those stress and frustrations, we need to know what purpose do those roadblocks serve? Or could it be a better lesson hidden in that experience?

Maybe all you need is to get accustomed to a skill or else getting some valuable knowledge before you would able to proceed your previous plans. Thus, the next thing you have to do now is trying to appreciate that those roadblocks or obstacles serve a bigger role instead of only cause emotional stress for your life. Since our life will always prevail, you need to realize that reality would not earn you any support. On the other hand, tackling down all those roadblocks would help you out to move through those roadblocks slightly than allow them to control your life. Being open to your challenges would able you to embrace your life through your non-battle. Those roadblocks would finally reveal essential lessons for you to identify its prominence.

Many times, when life has knocked you around, you might feel weak and unable to build up your self-esteem. For this reason, it is fundamental for you to stand in your own willpower. Be eager to leave behind those pursuits that would not deliver any results to you. Learn how many people have discounted the value of re-navigating their focuses when they found out all their attempts are shattered.  These following points would help you to overcome all those roadblocks and regain your willpower.

Reserve Yourself from the Scenario

            If you find yourself struggling with any roadblock, then you would notice that your emotions run high. This is simply due to you possibly reacting to the following scenario. Now step back from that confusion and view the roadblock from a better view. One Australian artist has stated that when she tries to create some oil paints, she would prefer to take some regular breaks. She confirmed that this allows her to go back to her work every time with fresher eyes and approach her painting from a different view. You could foster the same tactic with your roadblock, take a break, then come back with renewing willpower at the right time.

Search for Necessary Resources

             Very so often, you might feel lack of support, strategy, or the main piece of skill to conquer your roadblocks. Now the key here is to recognize that it is basically ‘resource linked.’ For instance, you definitely need a key software program to make an automation process. This would make your work easier and focus on more important tasks. In simple words, try to consult with other people who able to help you out in overcoming your roadblocks. In fact, their fresh eyes might enable you to see what you have been missing so far. Thus, no need to hesitate in searching for the necessary resources from others who might have more experience than you.

Gain the Viewpoint

Once an unpredicted roadblock appears, you might get overwhelmed with it. Then you would be in the subsequent crisis, forward the essential resources to create critical solutions. Gaining the viewpoint will be able to help you step away from all those ‘noises’ You can do this by seeking support from others, discuss with your family or friends who could provide you a different evaluation of your challenge.

Viewpoint does not point toward in detaching yourself from the roadblock in acceptance. Instead, it simply means viewing the roadblock from various vantage points, and at the same time, also considering options from others. As an author Robert Brault has stated, “We are kept from our goal, not by obstacles but by a clear path to a lesser goal.” Another view also came up from Orison Swett Marden that, “Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them.”

The quote above has mentioned clearly that we should prepare ourselves to fight with those obstacles or roadblocks that challenge us. The reason is due to those roadblocks will definitely melt away along with our progress to achieve the success. Therefore, make sure you gain the viewpoint that all of those roadblocks were meant to strengthen you instead of weaken you. Once you could gain this viewpoint, then it would be easier for you to make yourself ready to tackle down all those roadblocks which will come on your way to achieve your success.

Evaluate the Roadblock

            Now you need to devise the willpower to evaluate the obstacle by answering this question: Can you do something now to overcome the roadblock or does it require any help from the expert one?

You must consider it accurately since, even though you might be viewing it for the first time. Remember to use your logic along with the comprehensive judgment with a purpose to avoid yourself becoming emotionally locked up with the task. Believe that winners know that they would have to face the obstacles, hurdles, roadblocks, failures, tragedies, and even disasters.

            Hence, you really need to remember that a roadblock is something that will automatically come across our way to achieve your goals. Consequently, instead, than be afraid or give up on them, it will be more valuable if you could evaluate the roadblock that comes near you, with a purpose to figure out a strategic plan that you could make to fight them out.

Stay Committed and Focused

            Frequently a roadblock is never intended to weaken your performance. Instead, it is rather an invitation for you to become clear and strong along the way of the process which ultimately will move you forward to the next stage. The roadblock is actually guiding you to show up a specific aspect now, at the time you have invested all of your valuable time and energy. Just take an example from Thomas Edison who had to fail several times before he finally found the light bulb. Thus, you need to stay committed and focused, never let the setbacks to fall you down. The roadblock will help in elevating your own mental experience in the contexts of building up your spirit, strength, and courage. In fact, each time you made it to tackle down a roadblock, you actually overcome a mental obstacle for yourself.

Build a Growth Mindset

Science has mentioned that there are two categories of mindset that you need for success - fixed mindset or growth mindset. To overcome the roadblock, you need to build a growth mindset that is inspiring to consistent improvement and shaping your own success. Keep in mind that the willpower for extending yourself and sticking to it, even at the hard times, is basically the trademark of the growth mindset. This is a type of mindset that allows you to thrive over the most challenging times in your life.

From this point, it is fair to say that you surely need to build a growth mindset to support you in various things such as:

• With a growth mindset, you would not easily give up on the roadblock that comes to challenge your way
• With a growth mindset, you would be able to see the thing more clearly than before and also accepting that those roadblocks are meant to prepare yourself for the success that you have been dreaming of
• With a growth mindset, you would able to motivate yourself and turn out as a better person who will not easily give up and always try to move forward in achieving your goals