Report on Why Kids Hit

Introduction of Why Kids Hit

Many parents are not well aware of this nature of their kids and consider it as if they are playing or being naughty. There can be number of different scenarios in this case of children hitting to others, they can hit their fellows, siblings and even their parents. Many parents are not well aware of it that whatever they are doing in front of their children is causing them effect too. They see their parents fighting or arguing then try to mimic it as well. Here the case is not only revolving around the parents but children can also learn this from their fellows and many different people living around them. There are many children who are not being noticed or given proper attention and as a result what they do is start getting frustrated. As being frustrated they lose their mental control and ultimately release their stress by hitting. Parents and teachers should tell them different ways to control their anger and frustration. They should always act in a positive way in front of them and above all they should always and always listen to them whatever they are trying to say. When children become unable to convey their message verbally, as a result they start this action of hitting. (Forness, et.al; 1996)

There is another case, many children in different areas don’t know appropriately that how should they convey their message verbally, although teachers and parents do listen to them but still they don’t know how should they convey their message. After being annoyed they start using physical hitting. So for this they should be asked to act properly and control their anger. Parents and teachers should try to co-operate with them as much as possible.

In our society, this children hitting is not considered to be bad at all because parents think they are just kids and will learn to behave with the passage of time as they will grow. No, they are totally wrong here. They need to be stopped because this can become their habit. They will do it after growing up as well, so to stop this kind of act they should be asked to control their anger and physical hitting as soon as possible in a positive way.

Getting hit by your own child can be insulting and frustrating too. While to some parents, it brings shame and depression in front of others. Third kind of group is when their children hit them or others they ultimately start thinking as if they are somehow failing as a parent. There is no doubt in it and nothing to worry about as at one point or another, children to hit but how you respond to that act of your children, how parents plus teachers try to stop it will obviously influence how likely that children will hit again in coming scenario.

Reasons why children hit:

There is not a single reason behind anything, same is the case here. Different reasons have been known behind the children hitting:

· At times such children start to feel lash out when their mood changes and they start feeling angry because in that case they are not well aware of controlling their feelings or how can they cope up with a current situation in a better way. After losing control on their anger the children or kids start hitting whoever they see in front of them without thinking once.

· Some children start hitting because they lack an impulse control. They just start hitting others without even thinking about the consequences that what might can happen next.

· Every children wishes for certain things and when they start to feel that their wishes are not being fulfilled or their requirements are not being fulfilled they feel frustrated and as a result start hitting. (Kauffman, J.M., 1999)

· Parents always stop their children from doing wrong deeds or whatever they think is better for their children. Sometimes children also hit their mother by thinking this that doing such deeds like hitting can change their mind and that particular child is free to do whatever he or she wants.

Tell you children about the appropriate behavior:

This is not enough to such children just saying that “Don’t Hit” try to teach them about the anger management skills as much as possible. Try to divert the attention of such children by asking them to read books, ask them to do painting, go out for sports or simply go back to their room when they feel angry.

Also teach them about different kind of feelings like frustration and sadness. Tell them and also discuss the importance of dealing with such feelings in a proper and appropriate manner. Also tell them to find different strategies on their own that can help them in coping up with the emotions in a safe way.

Last but not least, people who are facing this problem are in serious condition and they need proper attention and care. Try to be with them and help them out before it gets too late and you lose them.

Literature review of Why Kids Hit

Getting hit by your own child can be insulting and frustrating too. While to some parents, it brings shame and depression in front of others. Third kind of group is when their children hit them or others they ultimately start thinking as if they are somehow failing as a parent. There is no doubt in it and nothing to worry about as at one point or another, children to hit but how you respond to that act of your children, how parents plus teachers try to stop it will obviously influence how likely that children will hit again in coming scenario. (Fagot, B.I. and Hagan, R., 1985.)

Through the data I searched, it has been found out that there are multiple effects of children hitting. Not only effects are being mentioned below but the solution to stop this children hitting are also mentioned that can help in the reduction of this ratio.

Effects of Child hitting of Why Kids Hit

· Children hitting causes psychological as well as emotional distress. The ratio of these kids is way more than any other victim these days. These children face swear fear, depression, anxiety, physical symptoms as well as they face a major decline in their academics. Along with the above-mentioned effects, here are some of the common feelings which are being faced by the teens as well as tweens together.

· Many time victims start getting angry not just on the people around them but also on their own self by thinking that what is happening to them and why can’t they stop it.

· Children hitting not only makes victims ill and depressed but also increases the rate of suicide. Kids who are continuously being tormented via messages, social media or through other outlets start feeling hopeless. They start thinking that maybe suicide is the only way through which they can escape from the pain they are going through. So as a result, they start to fantasize about putting an end to their life to reduce the pain and torture. (Ulman, A. and Straus, M.A., 2003)

· Children hitting is not being taken as a serious thing. Parents are teachers should know that it can kill your loved ones. If your child or student is in such phase or state please do not miss their feelings. I repeat DO NOT MISS THEIR FEELINGS. Try to communicate with them on daily basis, ensure them that they are safe and not alone.

Solutions of Why Kids Hit

Solution #1: children hitting can be stopped and your loved ones can also come out of this state if you help them and support them. One big action which needs to be taken is raising awareness among people. Try to make this word children hitting common by doing different seminars. Speakers should be invited who can easily talk on this topic and make it more interesting. Students should be well aware of this term so that in future they don’t suffer and a big problem and can easily go through it. (Slaby, R.G., 1995)

Solution #2: Many young children these days don’t share what they go through from their parents. Try to become close enough to your children so that they don’t feel any hurdle or difficulty while sharing any kind of problem. In case if they don’t, try to notice their activities and behavior. Technology these days is changing so rapidly that parents don’t have enough time to know about all such applications but still try to have a check on the activities of your children that what they do and all before it gets too late.

Solution #3: Modern children are bit different, they choose role models and try to follow them in every possible way. The choice varies from children to children, some choose singer while some choose sportsmen. In this era, many of the celebrities are supporting the victims of child hitting. Many among them post different comments and posts on their social accounts against children hitting. They talk about this problem so this is another way through which children can become aware of children hitting. (Kauffman, J.M., 1999)

Solution #4: Teach them about different kind of feelings like frustration and sadness. Tell them and also discuss the importance of dealing with such feelings in a proper and appropriate manner. Also tell them to find different strategies on their own that can help them in coping up with the emotions in a safe way.

Solution #5: Being a parent you always know in which state your children is, can he or she still be controlled with parents help. If you think no, this is all going out of hands then simply go and seek for some kind of professional help that can make your child better and bring back to normal life like normal people. This will definitely make things better instead of just sitting and waiting for the things to get normal on their own. (Frey, K.S., Hirschstein, M.K. and Guzzo, B.A., 2000.)

Last but not least, people who are facing this problem are in serious condition and they need proper attention and care. Try to be with them and help them out before it gets too late and you lose them.

Conclusion of Why Kids Hit

In our society, this children hitting is not considered to be bad at all because parents think they are just kids and will learn to behave with the passage of time as they will grow. No, they are totally wrong here. They need to be stopped because this can become their habit. They will do it after growing up as well, so to stop this kind of act they should be asked to control their anger and physical hitting as soon as possible in a positive way.

Ratio of child hitting is increasing day after day, this act needs to be stopped as already discussed above if this act will not be stopped then such children will make it as their habit and if they have done this all on their own how will they be even able to stop other children in future. They will definitely think in their mind that whatever they are doing is completely right and this should be continued.

Stopping this kind of act by children will definitely bring positivity in the society and children seeing other children not hitting one another will ultimately be a reason of change in other children’s behavior too.

We all are a part of this society and we should raise our voices and help such people individually and only then we can bring a change in society and children will be able to know that by doing this will not bring them any peace but will cause them harm and to others as well.

References of Why Kids Hit

Fagot, B.I. and Hagan, R., 1985. Aggression in toddlers: Responses to the assertive acts of boys and girls. Sex roles, 12(3-4), pp.341-351.

Ulman, A. and Straus, M.A., 2003. Violence by children against mothers in relation to violence between parents and corporal punishment by parents. Journal of comparative family studies, pp.41-60.

Slaby, R.G., 1995. Early Violence Prevention: Tools for Teachers of Young Children. National Association for the Education of Young Children, 1509 16th Street, NW, Washington, DC 20036-1426 (NAEYC Catalog# 325)..

Kauffman, J.M., 1999. How we prevent the prevention of emotional and behavioral disorders. Exceptional Children, 65(4), pp.448-468.

Forness, S.R., Kavale, K.A., MacMillan, D.L., Asarnow, J.R. and Duncan, B.B., 1996. Early detection and prevention of emotional or behavioral disorders: Developmental aspects of systems of care. Behavioral Disorders, 21(3), pp.226-240.

Frey, K.S., Hirschstein, M.K. and Guzzo, B.A., 2000. Second Step: Preventing aggression by promoting social competence. Journal of Emotional and Behavioral Disorders, 8(2), pp.102-112.