1. You can’t win an argument: In this principle, two persons are arguing upon the things relevant to the World War I after it has closed. The argument leads to frustration and both the people end up forcing the person to agree with their views and their perceptions’. And in this principle it is defined that if a man is convinced by the other person against his will then how can this person be convinced when he has his own perception, when a person is convince against his will then he will have the same opinion which he has before. So when arguing with other person or is someone is arguing with you just don’t get convinced against your own will and don’t convince the person against your own will. It will not change the perceptions of the both people. And the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

2. Sure way of making enemies-And how to avoid it: If you argue with a person and tell them that he is wrong, then he will surely become your enemy. It is a sure way of making the enemies if you said that the other person is wrong and you deny with his point of view and with his decision, this will make him angry and he will eventually stared to dislike you. If you want to avoid making enemies then you should not disagree with other person directly just show them with your gestures’ and intonation that you are wrong.

3. If you are wrong, admit it: In this principle, it is learned that if you are wrong then admit it in either any case. Most of the persons don not agree with their mistakes that they are wrong. When you are wrong admit your mistakes as soon as possible. You should admit your mistake as quickly as possible and should admit it empathically.

4. A drop of honey: When you are starting any argument, or nay talk with nay person, then start the argument in a friendly way other the other person might doesn’t like you. A drop of honey is required when you talk with the fellows and the colleagues.

5. The secret of Socrates: In this principle, don’t start the discussion by the things which you do not agree, start with the discussion with which you agree and convince the other person by forcing them to say yes and yes on every condition. And you can force them, to say yes by emphasizing on your things on which you agree

6. The safety valve in handling complaints: Most people try to win to other people way of thinking by using the technique of the talking, they convince the other person by talking too much and taking care of what the other person says. This principle is all about let the other person talk.

7. How to get cooperation: If you want a conclusion for your problem and for the study and if you want the opinion of the other person let them think that this idea is yours and take the suggestions from them. Give them the freedom completely to share their ideas by thinking that the whole idea is theirs.

8. A formula that will work wonders for you: When you are discussing something and if you want to try to win people to your way of thinking then try to put yourself at their place and see the things from their point of view. Try an honest attempt to see the things from the other person’s point of view.

9. What everybody wants: This is the ideal way to win the thinking of the other person just by being sympathetic to the ideas and the views of the other person. Appreciate the ideas and the views of the other person and appreciate their thoughts.

10. An appeal that everybody likes: Take the motive s that are much nobler for the person and appeal for that motives. Say the thing that every person likes and is happy with, this will help you to win the thoughts of the other person.

11. The movies do it; TV does it, why don’t you do it? : When you are talking with any person use the dramatic techniques to win the thinking of the other person, tell the story in a dramatic version.

12. When nothing else works, try this: When discussing anything with a person or talking to him stimulate the competition between your arguments. It will give you the desire to excel in different fields and the challenge will allow you to appeal in the eye of the other people.

Out of the 12 principles 8 are selected to provide some personal examples from my side by trying to explain my personal life experiences with the help of these 8 principles.

You can’t win an argument: Most of the times I argue with my friends upon such certain small things and try to win the argument in every case and try to convince my friends with my own perception like I like to live in the fantasy world but my friends said in the need you have to face the reality, so on such small things I argue with my friends and now I know that there is no need of any argument in any condition, just keep your perception up to you.

Sure way of making enemies and how to avoid it: I am a very straight forward person and tells the other person how I feel about his/her point of view or about her/his perceptions but sometimes my this habit makes the people angry and on this way I end up making some enemies.

A drop of honey: I have used this method and practiced it in my life that a drop of honey is beneficial for any person who wants to have a good communication with the other person. If A person wants to have a good relation with other person and if the person wants to have a good relationship with other person then a little bit sweetness is necessary in every communication.

If you are wrong, admit it: I mostly do not admit my mistakes in the real life situations, if I have done some loss or if I have lost something, I do not admit my mistakes on a daily basis. Even If I am wrong I do not admit my mistake and on a daily but sooner or later the truth reveals in front of everyone and my mistakes are in front of everyone. So it is better to admit the mistakes rather than hiding the mistakes.

The secret of Socrates: In this principle, don’t start the discussion by the things which you do not agree, start with the discussion with which you agree and convince the other person by forcing them to say yes and yes on every condition. And you can force them, to say yes by emphasizing on your things on which you agree. Mostly I start the conversations with a conflicting topic due to this I am often trapped and the people ask me random question s and do not agree with me. So I have learned that in most times, start the discussion where you know you can convince the other person.

The safety valve in handling complaints: Most people try to win to other people way of thinking by using the technique of the talking, they convince the other person by talking too much and taking care of what the other person says. This principle is all about let the other person talk. I usually talk a lot in the real life and convince the other person by my talking ways. Sometimes talking a lot will make you bale to convince your point of view to the other person and when I am full of sadness and happiness or some gossips, I talk a lot in front of the person to whom I want to convey my message and I speak until I discuss all the details with the person.

The movies do it; TV does it, why don’t you do it? : When you are talking with any person use the dramatic techniques to win the thinking of the other person, tell the story in a dramatic version. I am excellent person in dramatizing the scenarios and the scenes when I am talking to any person. When i am telling about the scenario of a thing I totally dramatize it in a filmy style and make it feel like the most dramatic thing ever heard. This makes the person attracted towards my conversation and I mostly win the thinking of the other people by this way.

What everybody wants: This is the ideal way to win the thinking of the other person just by being sympathetic to the ideas and the views of the other person. Appreciate the ideas and the views of the other person and appreciate their thoughts. Mostly I talk to the people in the way they want me to listen. I talk to the people according to the requirements of the requirements and the expectation and what they want to hear because most of the time people want to0 hear the things that they like to discuss with everyone. The people wants to discus their point of views with the other people, so listening to their views, ideas and the perceptions help the people to win their way of thinking.

The principles that I would like to practice in my life and want to utilize in my life to make my life and daily communication better are the principles:

You can never win an argument: If you want a peaceful environment and a peaceful conversation with the person then arguing with that person is not the best way. If you know that you are right then don’t impose it on the person b arguing your perception with the other person because the other person thinks with his own perception and you cannot forcedly convince him by arguing about your perception. So I would like to implement this practice in my life of not arguing with nay person because an argument leads to misunderstandings and the other person starts to dislike you. You can never win an argument and if you think you have win the argument and you think that you have convinced the person with your perception then you are wrong, the person perceptions remain the same he just wants to stop the argument and agree with you for the time being.

If you are wrong, admit it: If you are wrong then admit that you are wrong, don’t convince yourself that you are right and try to hide your mistakes when you know that eventually you will be proven wrong, so admit your mistakes as soon as possible and admit them empathetically. I will like to implement this practice in my life because I am very stubborn and I don’t admit my mistakes even if I am wrong as I don’t want to hurt my ego so I don’t admit my mi8srtakes occasionally.

A drop of honey: This will help you to maintain a friendly and a convenient relationship with other person because speaking a little politely with other person will help you to achieve a good communication with the other person and you can convey your message to the other person easily, so a little drop of honey added in your communication will help you to maintain a great relationship with the other people and you will win the thinking of the other people as well.

I will like to implement and practice these three principles in my life to improve my communication skills as well as my daily communication style with other people.

References of How to win people to your way of the thinking

Carnegie, D. (1937). How to win friends and influnce people. Cornerstone.