Discussion on Isay emphasize on switching the traditional way of interviewing to the one that could be more meaningful and personal.

This way become the process of getting people together and sharing different stories between them. Isay convinced the listener about this idea by putting many heart warmings examples. He was able to get his point across. He has shared his personal story by which he opened up his speech. He told us about the relationship he had with his father. With this inspiration of his father’s story he started interviewing many individuals who were at the bar of Stonewall in 1969. He cherished every story. He felt that every individual thought that their story is not that much important to anyone. They were very happy that there is someone who can listen to them. In this process of radio business, he interviewed thousands of people. Dave Isay tell the wonderful reaction of ‘I exist’, that totally support this argument that every need to hear the stories through the process of interview.

Then Isay also shared an example of Grand Central Station. He showed a story of a 10 years old boy and his mother. Boy was having an Asperger’s syndrome. This example shows the importance of listening to one another and sharing the experiences and how thankful the other person is for your existence. Isay calls this as ‘anti-reality TV’. He showed how the realness in the world is now fed up with misconceptions and confusions. Isay worked hard in expanding this idea. ‘StoryCorps’ has become the biggest collection of the voices of human around the globe. Under the theme of ‘human is good’ he shared some interviews. All this proves that this idea was wonderful mission to redefine the use of this idea.

This Ted Talk make me feel about the change that my friends and I will be going through this year. This speech suddenly makes me realize the importance of the individuals who are surrounding me. Its sad but it shows the complexities in the person. This ted talk makes me realize that is I should start knowing the peers around me and to listen to their authentic stories before it’s too late.

When I am working wit my customers and clients, I have to face many issues regarding communication. But I have many tips that is hare with them so they can get prepare for the difficult conversations ahead. Being a psychologist, I know that every person is different and unique having different sensitivities, many different experiences in past and approach in communication. In my experience, I think that building up a difficult conversation is worse than talk itself. When to say what, how to approach the emotions of the other person and how they can possibly react and what comes nest to counter in communication. When you see you serf building up an imaginary scenario, its like a movie, you can turn it off any time and can come back to reality when you have mindfulness skills. Your feet should be grounded on the floor and there should be proper attention in the present. The only thing that we can control is how can we approach in conversation and how to hold yourself. Once a friend told me ‘keep your side of the fence clear’ this really helped me in many areas of life. Because this is all you can do.

No one likes to be attacked and when they will feel so they will react defensive naturally. And once the other person is gone to the defensive mode it will become very difficult to have the productive conversation. Next time I will have this kind of difficult conversation and I will feel that the emotions are getting hurt I’ll take the break so that the heart rate will go down and things will get back to normal.