Law of attraction pick up line

CLASSMATE 1

Approaching someone you think is attractive can be an extremely nerve racking thing to do. Wether you are at the bar, or the grocery store, how do you appropriately let somebody know you are interested?

While reading over this weeks research on the use of pick up lines, and how accurate they are, I found many of the findings quite interesting. From what I understood the consensus is that women are less likely to disagree with this feedback. Personally, I don't think its the pick up line that will determine my decision, but rather a persons appearance and confidence.

I realize that it may seem shallow but I cannot deny that the first thing myself (and I'm sure others) notice is a persons appearance. For example: I am much more likely to respond positively to a pick up line if the person on the other side of that line is attractive to me. On the other hand, if the person is "not my type" I would be likely to shrug it off. This may sound odd but I think the power of attraction can really shift a persons initial out look on someones actual personality. Even if the pick up line is absolutely ridiculous, but I am physically attracted to the person, I would give them a chance.

The second part of my opinion that may slightly contradicts my first part is: confidence. What I mean by this is that if there was a man that I was not super attracted to, and he approached me with lots of confidence and a sense of humor, I would be more willing to give him a chance. Yes, maybe they are not 100% physically my type, but they are confident and funny which automatically attracts me to them!

Overall, I would have to say that I don't think there are necessarily good or bad pick up lines. I think that it has to do with so much more than that. It depends on your mood, you're type, and your personality. I found it interesting that the research said women tend to not like pick up lines... I myself don't mind them. I mean, how else are you supposed to talk to a stranger without an opening line?

(2017). Gender and Gender Identity. In the Psychology of Human Sexuality, Chapter 7 (p. 178). Document posted in University of Maryland Global Campus PSYC 332 E250 online, archived at: https://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/umuc/reader.action?docID=5106984&ppg=149

CLASSMATE 2:

This week's discussion is one of my favorites because I believe every man and woman can relate. Being single and trying to put yourself out, there is not always easy. Still, many find unique ways to meet people. According to Lehmiller (2017), there are 3 types of pickup lines that most individuals use when approaching someone for the first time, the cute/flippant, the innocuous, and the direct pickup lines. I normally used the innocuous approach; for example, "I like your shirt" or "how is your day going so far." These pickup lines were effective for me because it started a conversation between us and did not offend that person.

On the other hand, I have had some men use all three cute/flippant, innocuous, and direct pickup lines. For example, some that I would respond to positively would be, "I think there's something wrong with my phone. Could you try calling it to see if it works?" or "hey, what is your name? (introduces himself) just want to say that I think you're beautiful" or "do you come here often." The least effective ones were the flippant ones like, "I'd like to find out how many licks it takes to get to your center."

I would like to say that many factors influence how I react to any pickup line and the individual. Some of those factors include my emotional state and how attracted I am to that individual. With that being said, all three different pickup (cute, direct, innocuous) lines have worked on me. The only one pickup lines that have been least effective were the sexual/inappropriate flippant ones. I believe this is because most of those line insinuate that a women is easy or is being approached just for sex.

Lehmiller (2017), explained a research study with results similar to my opinion about flippant pickup line. This study had college men and women come up with pickup lines that the other sex might use on them and evaluate which line they believed would work best. The results varied, but for the most part, more women than me disliked cute/flippant pickup lines. Both men and women agreed that a direct and innocuous approach would be best. According to research, our emotional state directly influences who we are attracted to (Lehmiller, 2017). For example, when someone uses a pickup line that makes us feel good, we are most likely to like that person. When someone says negative comments that make that individual feel self-conscious or bad, we tend to dislike that person. This could very well explain why most people do not respond positively to pick up line like "I'm easy, are you?" Or "You remind me of a woman I used to date."

(2017). The Law of Attraction. In The Psychology of Human Sexuality, Chapter 7 (p.175-181). Document posted in University of Maryland Global Campus PSYC 332 E250 online, archived at: ProQuest Ebook Central - Reader

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